Thoughts on Thinking, Coaching, Hypnosis, Performance, Personal Development, Spirituality, Law of Attraction, Recommended Reading, Quotes and Articles from various sources.
According to David Allen, there are only two problems in life.
Seth Godin has posted The Z List of interesting blogs on Squidoo. I must have accidentally hit the submit button multiple times when I added this blog to the list, so if you are visiting the HypnoCoaching Blog for the first time coming from The Z List, I apologize for my unintentional multiple post.
Consider what Stephen Shapiro says in his book, Goal Free Living:
"In preparing for battle I have always found that plans are useless,
According to Tim Sanders in his book The Likeability Factor, the 4 main components of likeability are: Friendliness, Relevance, Empathy and Realness.
After winning several archery contests, the young and rather boastful champion challenged a Zen master who was renowned for his skill as an archer. The young man demonstrated remarkable technical proficiency when he hit a distant bull's eye on his first try, and then split that arrow with his second shot. "There," he said to the old man, "see if you can match that!" Undisturbed, the master did not draw his bow, but rather motioned for the young archer to follow him up the mountain. Curious about the old fellow's intentions, the champion followed him high into the mountain until they reached a deep chasm spanned by a rather flimsy and shaky log. Calmly stepping out onto the middle of the unsteady and certainly perilous bridge, the old master picked a far away tree as a target, drew his bow, and fired a clean, direct hit. "Now it is your turn," he said as he gracefully stepped back onto the safe ground. Staring with terror into the seemingly bottomless and beckoning abyss, the young man could not force himself to step out onto the log, no less shoot at a target. "You have much skill with your bow," the master said, sensing his challenger's predicament, "but you have little skill with the mind that lets loose the shot."
Ask this question about the context you are considering. State what you want in positive terms, ie what do you want, and what do you want it to do? Where do you want it? When do you want it? Eg 'I want to be, do or have X'. If the answer forms as 'I do not want...' then ask, 'What do I want instead of ...'.
Is it possible for a human being to achieve the outcome? If it has been done by someone, then in theory it can be done by you, too. If you are the first, find out if it is possible.
What evidence will you accept that lets you know when you have the outcome? Ensure that your evidence criteria are described in sensory based terms ie: That which you can see, hear and/or touch that proves to you and/or third parties that you have done what you set out to do.
Is it under your control, ie can you, personally do, authorize or arrange it? Anything outside your control is not 'well formed'. Instructing your broker is within your control. So is buying in expertise. Asking your employer for time off is not. The time off will only become well formed if it is granted.
Ensure that the outcome is worth the time, outlay and effort involved in achieving it, and that impact on third parties or the environment is accounted for.
Do you have or can you obtain all the resources, both tangible and intangible that you need to achieve your outcome? Resources include knowledge, beliefs, objects, premises, people, money, time.
Are all costs and consequences of achieving your outcome, including the time involved, acceptable to you and anyone else affected by it? This is known as ecology. Consider the costs, consequences, environmental and third party impact of having the outcome.
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